The skewed masculine: how unchecked male power drives rape culture and what we can do about it
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How does unchecked masculine power fuel sexual violence?
The Skewed Masculine
The runaway, immature, masculine idea of strength destroys not only women, but also destroys the Earth.
What does a rapist's mindset look like in power?
What you're seeing right now, in real time, is how the mind of a rapist works
I know there's so much going on right now with our Great Orange Pumpkin (I mean president). But trust me, what you're seeing in action, in real time, is how the mind of a rapist works.
He takes anything he wants. And with the way our legal system works, he always gets away with it.
The way a man wields his masculine power determines whether he builds a beautiful legacy or leaves destruction in his wake with all he touches.
You've been brainwashed. So have boys and men.
How does normalizing rapists in power perpetuate rape culture?
Normalizing men who perpetrate sexual violence and rapists in power is not okay
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Trump is a rapist. This is the moment.
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Somehow it was okay for America to elect a rapist for president who in turn, nominated other rapists and sexual predators for positions throughout his cabinet. Normalizing rapists, sexual assault and sexual harassment is a sickness over the world. It is time this sickness ends.
I'm tired of our Democratic leaders pussy-footing around, politely filing motions, waiting around, sitting on their hands. While our sex offender president rapes the Earth, our justice system, our financial stability, our allies and continues to get away with his previous sexual assault.
The Republican Party is ripping itself apart at the seams, over the Epstein conspiracy (and the Epstein reality). Now is the time to strike.
NOW is the time to speak out about the Global Rape Culture Epidemic.
How does the media make rape culture worse?
Watering down. Sugar coating. Softening the blow.
"Boys will be boys." "That's just locker room talk." Really Melania? Again, normalizing rape culture.
Like the news watering down what Trump actually said every time they repeated it. Do you think if they actually said it clearly and directly every time the story was covered, that he was expressing his glee that he could just "grab [women] by the pussy", would all the Christians and Catholics still have voted for him? No they wouldn't! But no one, including the news stations, actually say what's happening. They make sexual assault more palatable. That's not okay. That perpetuates rape culture.
Watering down. Sugar coating. Softening the blow when we hear about a person being robbed of their sense of self.
What happens to a person's identity when their body is violated?
Your body is your home, and violation destroys the sense of self
Your body is your home. It is a large part of your identity. Our self perception, self-esteem, our sense of self is largely derived from our intellect, our emotions and our body.
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When your body is violated, there is a profound loss in the sense of self.
Who needs to be trained, and in what?
Training everyone is how we change the culture
Train cops
Law enforcement must respond with sensitivity, belief, and compassion, every time.
Train boys and men
All men need sex offender training. All boys and men need to go through the Clothesline Project.
Train advertisers and TV
More male nudity. Less salacious nudity. Less female nudity used to sell and objectify.
Train girls
Your body is yours. You are not broken. There is nothing wrong with you.
What girls need to hear
Your body is yours.
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A boy does not care about you if he says he won't wait for you to be ready for sex, so, if you don't have sex with him, he's going to find someone else to have sex with.
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It's normal for you to have vaginismus for years after being sexually assaulted.
There's nothing wrong with you if you don't cum fast. Most boys are too stupid to do their research and know about this. They'll tell you there's something wrong with you. That's not it. There's nothing wrong with you. Women warm up like a steam kettle. Men warm up like a firecracker. Most women need additional stimulation. Just intercourse rarely gives enough clitoral stimulation for a woman to orgasm.
What can good men do right now to help end rape culture?
To be a good man who is powerful and compassionate, here's what you can do
Every time you hear another man saying anything disrespectful about women, get present with him. Do what you can to connect with him. Slowly begin to raise him up to the higher levels. You will do this mainly by modeling for him how a powerful and compassionate man behaves, thinks and feels.
When you see a man abusing a woman or mistreating her, step in. Stop him. Tell him his thinking is wrong. Tell him his behavior is wrong. Tell him he must learn to lead with compassion and not like a scared, stupid boy.
If a woman in your life has been sexually assaulted, believe her, listen to her, encourage her to speak out about it, encourage her to say his name, and encourage her to report it. Let her know she needs a "Battle Buddy" (or two).
Let her know if an insensitive police officer handles her case, that she needs to ask and speak with someone else who is compassionate. She needs to tell them she will only speak with a compassionate cop.
What is a Battle Buddy, and why does every survivor need one?
What is a Battle Buddy?
The #SayHisName support system
No survivor should report alone.
A Battle Buddy is someone who stands with a survivor through the process of reporting, someone who believes her, accompanies her, and refuses to let her be silenced, dismissed, or shamed by the system.
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All men need sex offender training. All boys and men need to go through the Clothesline Project.
Questions survivors and allies are searching for right now
Answered directly, for survivors, allies, and men who want to do better
How does electing a rapist as president normalize rape culture?
When a man who has been legally recognized as a rapist holds the highest office in the land, it sends a direct message to every perpetrator that power protects them, and to every survivor that their trauma does not matter. Normalizing rapists in power is not okay. It is a sickness. And it is time that sickness ends.
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Why does the media downplay sexual assault?
Because calling it what it is, rape, makes people uncomfortable. So news stations soften it, water it down, make it more palatable. That is not neutrality. That is rape culture in action. Watering down sexual violence perpetuates it.
What is the Clothesline Project and why does it matter?
The Clothesline Project is a nationwide initiative where survivors create and display decorated t-shirts bearing witness to their experiences of sexual violence. All boys and men need to go through it, to see, to feel, and to understand the scale of what rape culture does to human beings.
Is vaginismus normal after sexual assault?
Yes. It is completely normal for survivors to experience vaginismus, the involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles, for years after being sexually assaulted. There is nothing wrong with you. Your body is responding to trauma. Healing is possible.
What can men do to help end rape culture?
Speak up when other men say disrespectful things about women. Step in when you see abuse. Believe the women in your life who disclose assault. Encourage them to say his name and report. And go through the Clothesline Project, because understanding starts with seeing the truth.
What does "skewed masculine" mean?
The skewed masculine is the runaway, immature, destructive idea of male strength, one that takes without asking, dominates without care, and mistakes power over others for real strength. It destroys women. It destroys the Earth. And it is time it ends.
The #SayHisName movement®
Say his name. Demand change.
Help end the global rape culture epidemic.
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